The 1 Key Quality You Miss When You Only See Positive

The 1 key quality you miss when you only see positive and negative.

You miss neutral.

That was a terrible massage. I don’t want to do that again. What was I thinking? I will never do that again.

Removing negative experiences make sense.

Wow, my friend is fantastic. They are so supportive. I wish we could spend more time together.

Quality time with this friend is a positive experience, no question.

If you’re like me, you’ve overlooked the middle. The neutral experience. The so-so dining experience. The ok-I-guess coffee with a friend. Anything that falls in the category of “It wasn’t the worst”.

These neutral experiences are stealing your time, energy, and attention.


You could’ve been anywhere in the world. But you’re here with me, I appreciate that -Jay Z

Here’s why. Every neutral experience you support is stealing the spot of a positive one. Indulging someone who wants to “pick your brain” is time stolen from your family, or best friend, or even a great book.

Cut out this lukewarm slack and immediately benefit.

Yes, we should strive to cut the negative interactions and exchanges in our life. Let’s also include the no-value-add neutral experiences.