Men often ask me for advice on what dating products I would recommend. Many products are worth buying and yet it’s a challenging question because it depends on where a person is at in his learning. It’s a reasonable question though. Depending on where a guy is at in his dating game I could comfortably recommend material by David DeAngelo, Vin DiCarlo, Neil Strauss , and even Paul Janka.

The challenge is that no magic bullet exists. There is no product that is right for every guy.

Opportunities range from simple style and fashion issues to starting, and continuing quality conversations. Deeper learning material covering what it really means to create and develop a lasting attraction vs. flash in the pan one night action is an entirely different level.

Luckily there is material available, both free and paid that address all manner of coaching. From the beginner to the man who just wants to eliminate a very specific sticking point, there is a product available.

In a future post, I will do my best to share what I know. Hopefully it will serve as a bit of a FAQ, and I won’t have to answer another email.

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Writing emails to women online can be a frustrating activity if you are a guy. It is challenging  to start a conversation via email. Getting your email read in an online dating situation is a difficult proposition. According to online dating site OK Cupid 2/3rds of men email the top 1/3rd of attractive women online. This means your email is one of hundreds or more from guys just like you. The tips below will help you get past the first hurdle and get your email read.

1. Craft a subject line

Not having a subject line is like not speaking when you pick up the phone.  It demonstrates laziness and lack of thought.  Not a great first impression. Include a subject line.

2. Engage the reader’s attention

The key word is engage. Make your subject enticing and interesting. Don’t use “Hi”, “Hello”, “Howdy” or “I ____ your profile” as a subject line. EVERY GUY DOES THAT.  Instead, engage their attention. Perhaps pose a question. Try to include an interest or activity or relevant detail from their profile.  Does she like chocolate, dogs, or video games? Integrate those components. Think about what drove you to write them in the first place and integrate that into the subject. You need to answer the question for them “Why should I click on THIS message”? Example, “This breathtaking view is missing…” or “If you like Coach then you’ll love…”

3. Be Specific

“Call me” isn’t going to work, nor will a subject line that looks like you copy/pasted it on 20 other emails. Is there a popular local spot/attraction/event? Is there positive local news? Include some component of that in your subject line.  Be specific, be engaging, and don’t be surprised when your online dream girl actually reads your message.

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